A Bride form the East, or a Bride from the West?

A cursory glance at the Internet about the women of Eastern Europe shows hundreds of pages about marriage. It seems that men from western countries prefer to marry women from the east, especially Poland and Russia. These web pages are usually based on “mail relationships”, the posting of pictures, and a short description of the “offers”.

A question arises: Why do men from western countries prefer to marry women from Eastern Europe?

One of the web pages gives these reasons: Eastern women are known for their beauty; Polish girls and other eastern European women are highly educated and intelligent, they have traditional family values, younger women are more willing to marry, Polish and Russian women are proud of being females, and a life with a foreigner means a life full of surprises. However, all of these reasons are false since the same thing could be said about western women.

The reason why western men prefer to marry women from the east, such as from Poland, is much deeper than simple slogans used by internet companies. It's very apparent that female independence and feministic outlooks have something to do with the preferences of the western men. Polish women are very different in this respect from the western women in that they don't want to be in direct competition with men. Eastern women like to care for their husbands, and allow their husbands to take care of them. The feminist movement did not root itself so deeply in Eastern Europe, which is why Polish women are not afraid to be feminine, and can appreciate the manliness of their partners. They aren't afraid of the male tendencies to view them as objects; quite the opposite, they like to show off their femaleness and their sex appeal.

It doesn't mean that Western women don't have these characteristics. It does imply, however, that women from the east are easier to figure out. Dates could be frustrating, says one Internet page, since men aren't sure whether a girl is having a date with him so that she can have a good time, or whether she is ready to spend the rest of her life with him. A lot of pressure in our culture is given to the beginning of a family at a certain age, hence some men seek Polish women to marry out of desperation. Like one of the pages with “mail relationships” says, it's easy to find a young wife from Poland, and in the west a young and beautiful wife is a status symbol.

Are western men so afraid of their manliness and of defeat while searching for a wife in their own country that they use email to meet a woman of a different culture and country? Are western women so repelling? These and other questions arise when contemplating this issue. The key here is making a business out of “mail brides”, which is sponsored by the western men. Is that caused by the beauty of a typical bride from Poland? Are men so enamored by women of different cultures? Personally I think that the issue is about feminism and independence. Saying that women from Poland and other eastern countries are the most beautiful is absurd (despite the fact that Polish women are for the most part beautiful and skinny). Overall I believe that women form the west are physically not so different as to make them unattractive in this part of the world. Thus what is left is only the male fear of not finding love in the west.

The western culture needs to also be taken into consideration when looking at this issue. Was it culture which led men to believe that the eastern women are superior to western women to the point that they are ready to marry them without physically meeting? Does our culture show us, western women, as being power-hungry? So hostile that we don't value our families, and that we are aggressive as wives? If the above assumptions are correct, something is not right. Men are leaning increasingly more to finding love in other parts of the world, so there has to be a reason for that. Of course, men can look for love and acceptance wherever they please, but taking into consideration the reasons why they're doing it, I think that they're not looking in the right places. But hey, this is nothing more than my opinion!