Dating an American Man - Things You Should Know
In many ways, American men are no different from Polish men, or men of other countries. They are interested in women who will respect them, who will take their needs into consideration, who will want to make a home that is welcoming for themselves as well as their friends and family, and who will make a good mother for their children. However, there are important differences which are good to keep in mind, especially if you are not so familiar with American ways.
First, remember that he is probably not so used to dating women who are not from this country. That means that he is used to women who are not so traditional as you probably are. This might be a good or bad thing for him, but undoubtedly it will take him time to get used to it. For example, he might be confused by the fact that sharing a common religion is probably important to you, as in America, many people marry across religious lines. He might also be a bit thrown off by the fact that you are willing to be responsible for many of the household tasks that he has gotten used to assuming for himself, given the different climate of the country. This doesn't mean he will find these things to be bad, just different. So, it is critical for you to not be upset when he seems to be taken a bit off guard by the importance you place upon traditions.
On the other hand, he might be expecting that you are far more traditional than you really are! After all, Poland has entered the 21st century right along with the United States! Polish women today are looking for home and a career; they want children, yes, and want to uphold the important customs and traditions, but they also are clear that they are people worthy of respect in their own right, and not just for how they clean a house or raise children. And it is possible that your new American beau doesn't know this; he might be counting upon finding a very traditional, almost 18th century Polish woman whom he can control and who will be very subordinate to him. If this is the case, and if you are not willing to be dominated for the rest of your life, you should get out now! There are plenty of American men who understand the difference between willing accommodation and abject subservience.
It is also good to keep in mind that American men have been influenced, for all of their lives, by advertisements and images on television, magazines, video games, and movies. This is not to say that men in other countries are not similarly influenced, but it does seem to intensify in the United States. And so, be on guard if you ever feel that you have to compete with the glorified, false images of movie stars and even animated virtual figures that some American men have come to expect from their girlfriends and wives!
Finally, do not forget that in the United States, most people are proud to claim a heritage that is not American, but that stems from their families of origin. Most Americans have grandparents or great-grandparents who came from other nations, and they are very proud of the cultures from which they have come. And so, your new boyfriend might be American, but he might also -- and especially -- be Italian-American. It is good to know so that you can honor this culture as you will expect him to honor yours.